Last Friday night, I was scrolling through Instagram, drinking a vodka and sparkling water. In hindsight, that’s probably not the best combination for a Friday night.
See, I was quickly getting down about myself as I saw countless beautiful women with “perfect” bodies appear on my feed.
This picture in particular caught my eye. So much so that I sent it to my best friend Jessica as a joke with the comment, “This is going to be me in 21 days.”
Apparently, this wasn’t the first time over the last few weeks that I was cutting up my body to Jess – specifically criticizing my “four-month, stretched out prego stomach.” No, I’m not pregnant, I just look the part. So she called me out on it! She told me to stop beating myself up for no reason and that my pity party was over.
That’s what best friends are for. Telling you how it is when you’re being ridiculous.
But raise your hand if you’ve been in my shoes. As women, we are constantly picking apart ourselves. How many of you have had this conversation with yourself or your girlfriends?
My nose is too big. I wish I had bigger breasts. I want a butt lift. I need liposuction. My feet are too big. I need Botox. I’m too fat. I’m too skinny.
And the self-deprecating comments just keep coming.
Why is it so easy to point out our perceived flaws, yet we have a hard time flaunting our best features?
It’s like in the workplace when I tell my team to develop their strengths and focus less on their weaknesses. It seems silly to grow a weakness (i.e. I’m not good at the financials, unless I’m spending money), so we concentrate on growing our strengths. Why can’t we do this about our bodies?
It’s time we change the narrative.
When I was in high school my Nana would tell me that I had such nice “gams.” I had no clue that “gams” meant legs. And until she said that, I never really thought they were anything to write home about.
But as I matured over the years, I learned to like my legs. I learned to show them off in skirts and dresses and shorts. I constantly receive compliments on them… and my big blue eyes… another strength.
It’s taken me years to recognize them as assets and is still a little hard for me to admit it aloud. But that’s the point. We all have at least one or two or hopefully 10 things we like about our bodies. And we should be PROUD of them. If you can’t think of anything, consider the last compliment you received. Oftentimes it’s our friends, family or strangers on the street who see something in us before we do.
So, what are your best features? What do you love about your body? What do you get the most compliments about? Sound off in the comments below.
I know it might be hard to admit but we need to start embracing our beauty.